Childhood is a foundational stage for the molding of God’s champion in your home. How you view your child will become his or her dominant view of self. At this young age, your child uses your worldview as a ﬁlter for everything he or she sees. This may be difficult to imagine when your three year old is loudly rejecting your worldview in the grocery store but it’s true, nonetheless. What you think matters to young children, so you need to be careful how you’re communicating. Ask yourself the following questions, as you deal with your young child: What do my words convey? Your words must set your child’s self-identity.
You are a blessing. Your child must know through your words that you consider him or her to be a gift from God, a blessing from the Lord. Remember, your infant may not understand all of the words you use but they rapidly understand, much more and much faster than we sometimes give them credit for. Choose your words well. ls your child a gift and a blessing — or a problem and a bother? How do you speak to your child? How do you speak about your child to others? I can assure you that most children early on in this stage know their name and are sensitive to it.
You are special. Children need to understand they are special, set apart, with a unique destiny pre-ordained by God. The theme verse for this is 1 Peter 2:9: “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” Your child is special and needs to understand this amazing fact. To hide this from your son or daughter is like hoarding a priceless gift meant for them.
You are different. You must tell your child that he or she is different from the rest of the world. This is not a negative thing to convey to children. During this stage of life they are already learning about many differences — who is and who is not family, gender differences, differences in moods, desires, and wants. You are teaching this young champion the concept of allegiance. When aligned with God, your child will be different from the world.
You belong to God. As parents, you can convey this amazing revelation through an emphasis on how much God loves your child. You can speak about the family of God and how your child is a part and you are a part. Children understand first the immediate family— mommy, daddy, siblings. Then, they realize there are more family — grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins. Your words can help them understand God has a family, a special family chosen just by Him and your child is a part of it.
Parents have a profound impact on the foundation of a child’s life. For better or worse, this foundation will likely continue to influence them for the rest of their life. However, if we were not provided with a healthy, loving foundation as children ourselves, it can be difficult to break the cycle and provide solid footing for our own children. Sometimes we don’t realize that we need to heal our past until faced with raising children of our won. Regardless of what is holding you back from being the best parent you can be, there is help available. Fill out this form or call 1-888-747-5592 to speak confidentially with a specialist today. Our team at The Center • A Place of HOPE is standing by to help you and your family.