Throughout our lives, we will all be faced with situations when we are wronged, hurt, or even abused; and yet we must decide to forgive. You might consciously know all of the incredible benefits of forgiveness, but what if you’re just not there yet? What if you understand all the pluses but still don’t feel like forgiving?
The first step is to state your truth aloud, even if it’s only to yourself. Put into words how you are feeling and what has been done to you. Saying the words aloud is a way to let them go.
Next, decide to forgive—not because you want to, not because it feels good, and not because it’s deserved, but because it is the healing thing for you to do. A conscious choice on your part to forgive can counteract your conscious decision to continue in the behaviors of your eating disorder or disordered eating. Your will is the same, but you are choosing to use it in a healthy, uplifting way.
Forgiveness can appear to be a concession of sorts, a letting-off-the-hook, an intentional weakening of one’s position of rightness. Forgiveness can appear that way, until you realize that God forgives. In truth, forgiveness is a position of power. Psalm 130:3-4 is an interesting passage on forgiveness. It says, “If you, O Lord, kept a record of sins, O Lord, who could stand? But with you there is forgiveness; therefore you are feared.” Yes, Forgiveness, as an intentional act, holds great power. It is the power of redemption, reconciliation, and restoration.
As you work through what your forgiveness should look like, realize you may need outside guidance. This will be especially true if you have been abused in some way. It simply may not be advisable to confront or communicate with an abusive person. Your forgiveness may need to be within you, or through a remote method, in order to protect you from further injury. Seek help from a professional counselor or trained pastor. Friends are wonderful resources, but you should look to a professional when dealing with particularly difficult issues.
Our team of recovery professionals at The Center • A Place of HOPE has helped many people heal from their past, and find true freedom and forgiveness in their lives. We focus on whole person care, addressing all aspects of an individual’s life experience. Fill out this form or call 1-888-747-5592 for more information or to speak confidentially with a recovery specialist today.